Time Out!

My daughters are all busy moms, right smack in the middle of raising our 12 grandchildren. Each of them have 4 busy, amazing kids. As in most families, on occasion, the kids get a little challenged and need a some personal time out for their own good and for the good of the mom and the family. What's true for kids is true for moms, as well- sometimes in the midst of busy, challenging lives it's good for some personal time out for the good of the mom and the family. So, that's just what happened last weekend. My daughters came from Portland, Los Angeles, and Seattle, and I came from Salt Lake to enjoy a time out experience in Seattle.

The whole idea started "cooking" back in November when I attended Time Out For Women in Salt Lake with friends. As I looked around, I saw so many moms with their daughters. Having experienced many BYU Education Weeks and BYU Women's Conferences, I had always hoped that someday I would be able to attend a Women's Conference or Education Week with my daughters, but having a baby in tow is problematic. But, at TOFW, there were lots of nursing mothers in the group. I sat there and thought, "We could do this!" I checked the locations for TOFW and found one in Seattle.Perfect! So, for Christmas, I gave my daughters an experience rather than a tangible gift. Each received an invitation to Time Out for Women as her gift. Judging from one daughter's reaction (She was visiting us at Christmas.), it was a pretty exciting gift. She had tears in her eyes as she read her invitation. We have all been excited for 4 months and it really did happen- last weekend! Of course, lots of arrangements had to be made and, it never could have happened without the help of our awesome sons-in-laws and cooperative kids. I owe a huge "THANKS!!" to husbands/dads, Lance, Brad, Tom, and husband/grandpa, David. THEY made it happen!

Emily had the great idea of going up on Thursday instead of Friday morning, so we met Julie and Amy for lunch at an Italian restaurant, before Amy got a new "do" for her birthday and, later, Emily got a new look at the Olson "salon," while I taught my daughters and granddaughters how to make organza flowers, just for fun.
Friday morning, Amy had a "gig" at Julie's daughter's first grade class doing a dramatic re-telling of "The Real Story of the Three Little Pigs." Amy was famous for her rendition in her younger years. What a fun flashback for all of us and the first graders loved the story and the popcorn we brought for the show.

We met my sister, Jennifer, for lunch at a fabulous Vietnamese restaurant in the Asian district of Seattle. The food was incredible, as well as beautiful,and it was so fun for Jennifer to visit with all my daughters at one time. What a GREAT memory!! After lunch, the girls and I went shopping at our favorite spot in Seattle- Goodwill. A trip to Goodwill to do school clothes shoppping was always a highlight of our summer trips to Seattle, so this was a trip down memory lane, plus Emily really scored this trip. We used our Marriott rewards points to stay in downtown Seattle- very convenient for the TOFW events Friday night and Saturday. After the session on Friday, we went to the hotel for a chocolate fix and surprised each other with Mothers' Day gifts.
Though the best part of the weekend was just being together, the TOFW events were great. The speakers were wonderful and the music was fun- Saturday especially, since none of us are big fans of the Friday night music guy. We all took away significant thoughts and impressions and we all were "recharged" and ready to go back home and implement things that we learned into our real lives. The theme of the conference was "Choose to Become," based on the scripture in Mark 9:23, "All things are possible to him that believeth." Each speaker took a different "take" on the theme. Michael Wilcox was one of my favorites and he spoke about learning and knowing as the key to becoming. He recently lost his wife and he shared some tender thoughts and told us that the only question that the Lord has answered about his wife's experience in the Spirit World is about what she is doing. He has gotten a definitive answer- "She is learning." She is doing more of what she was doing on the earth- learning and becoming. My other most favorite speaker was Emily Freeman, who challenged us to choose to become closer to the Lord; choose to become His. She wove Mosiah 5:12 and Isaiah 49 together, speaking of taking upon us the name of Christ and having His name written always in our hearts and never forgetting the promise that the Lord will never forget us, for we are graven upon the palms of His hands.

The whole weekend was non-stop fun and full of great experiences with my daughters. Here we are enjoying another great meal, this time at the Seattle Art Museum Cafe, during our lunch break on Saturday. Notice that Amy's Jack was having a great time, as well. He was awesome!It was great that the weekend was so close to Mother's Day, as well. It was the best gift I could have ever given them AND myself. We all agreed that it was an awesome "time out" experience and that we'd love to do it again. Yeah for TOFW!

I Know That My Redeemer Lives!

All of our children and grandchildren live out of state and do not have immediate access to the LDS Church News which arrives in our home each Saturday morning. Yesterday, the front page of the Church News had the First Presidency Easter Message.

For my children and grandchildren and other loved ones who won't see this Easter message from our Prophets, here are their beautiful words for this Easter season:

Among the most cherished thoughts and writings in this world is the divine statement of truth: "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

This precious Son, our Lord and Savior, atoned for the sins of all mankind. That memorable night in Gethsemane His suffering was so great, His anguish so consuming that He pleaded, "Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt." Later, on the cruel cross, He died that we might live, and live everlastingly. Resurrection morning was preceded by pain, by suffering in accordance with the divine plan of God. Before Easter, there had to be a cross. The world has witnessed no greater gift, nor has it known more lasting love.

The message of Easter is that the Savior lives! And because He lives all shall indeed live again. This knowledge provides the peace for loved ones of those who have passed on, "Oh, sweet the joy this sentence gives: 'I know that my Redeemer lives!'"

Thomas S. Monson
Henry B. Eyring
Dieter F. Uchtdorf

You Never Know . . .

. . . when life will take you down a path that you didn’t plan on. But then, that’s what this life is all about- unexpected detours and challenges to face and overcome or endure well. That’s part of The Great Plan of Happiness and I, for one, am so grateful for Our Heavenly Father’s Plan! For the most part, I have had a blessed life, with occasional and assorted challenges, so it is about time, I guess, for a little stretching and growing.

So, what is this all about? Here’s a little history. . . In February, during the middle of NAEP testing, I came down with a viral flu-like illness with the usual chills, fever, aches, and cough. When I started having chest pain along with it, I knew something else was going on. I couldn’t lie down, because the pain on the right side of my chest was so severe. Thank goodness for an awesome primary care doctor who figured out what was going on. (May I say that I was NOT impressed with the urgent care doctor I saw first.) I was diagnosed with acute pericarditis, an inflammation of the sac that surrounds the heart that was caused by the viral infection. I was put on high dose ibuprofen and it was quite a miracle drug. Within a day or two, I was so much better. I am still on it for another couple of weeks to completely get rid of the inflammation. In addition to the frequent blood tests, I was sent for an EKG (which was normal) and an echocardiogram. A couple of days after the echo, I read my results on my laptop at home and I was dumbfounded! The echo showed that I have “severe left ventricular hypertrophy and diastolic dysfunction.” The translation is that the muscle in the bottom chamber of the heart on the left side is severely enlarged. It is doing ok in pumping blood from the heart, but when the heart relaxes so that it can fill with blood returning to the heart, it can’t relax and fill correctly because the muscle is thickened and stiff so less blood can come into the chamber. When I read the report, I was in shock thinking, “How could this have happened? I have been doing everything right- exercising, eating a low-fat diet, keeping my weight down, and my blood pressure has been well-controlled for years.” And yet, I had an overwhelming feeling “This is a tender mercy of the Lord!” I had the echocardiogram for an unrelated problem and this is what was found. The key here is that it was found! Not on an autopsy report! Seemingly young healthy people do die unexpectedly, especially after exercise, and this condition can be a reason for their deaths.

My primary care doctor wanted to see me ASAP. He said that he just couldn’t understand it since I live such a healthy lifestyle and I am young (as opposed to OLD!) In fact, he said that it looked like the report was for a person in their 70’s or 80’s. In the words of my doctor, “This is very troubling.” So, he referred me to a cardiologist. Since they were booking out 4 months, my doctor called down and said I needed to be seen right away. I did have to wait 3 ½ weeks and that was long enough! In the meantime, my doctor told me to stop exercising completely until I could see the cardiologist. Even with the wait, I continued to feel that the whole situation was a tender mercy. I have not felt panicked or “freaked out,” but I have felt calm. A couple of weeks ago, we went to the temple and during the session, a prayer that was given asked for peace and calm for any who were in the session and needed a special blessing. The tears came as I recognized another tender mercy. I acknowledge the hand of the Lord in my life at this time and it is a great blessing to have this feeling of calm and peace.

David and I met with the cardiologist last Monday. I went into the appointment thinking that it would be all bad news. However, the cardiologist was very upbeat. He told me up front that it was his job to help me get better. We spent about an hour with him and he was very thorough in taking my health history, my family medical history, and in his examination. All along the way, he kept saying “This is good,” in response to my answers to questions and information given, listening to my heart and looking at my EKG, and looking at results of various medical tests. In other words, I have a number of good things going for me, even though the diagnosis is not good. He even said that there is a promising new medication that can actually reverse the hypertrophy, when added to a medication that I have been taking for years. So, here’s the plan for the next month or so: I am to wear a heart monitor 24/7 for the next month. I went the next day to the hospital to get instructions and to get hooked up for the first time. I will be monitored constantly at Intermountain Medical Center and at some other location in the U.S. My cardiologist will be able to monitor me during the month, as well, and if anything shows up, he will be in touch. If I have any heart symptoms, I simply touch a button on the cell phone transmitter and then call an emergency number. At the end of the month, I will have a stress echocardiogram with the cardiologist right there and we’ll see how everything looks then. In the meantime, I am able to do some minimal exercise (the key word is minimal!). It really makes me laugh. On the treadmill, I can advance from 0-4% grade over time and 1.5-3.5 mph over time. I have to do a 10 minute warm-up (how do you warm up with those parameters?!?) and I can exercise for an hour at a time. I’ve done it a couple of days so far and it is crazy slow and dumb, but I will be a compliant patient!

My bottom line is that I will do everything I can to work with the cardiologist to get this condition figured out and to overcome this challenge. I’m also working with my Heavenly Father on the situation, as well, and I appreciate the tender mercies which I have felt all along the way. I know of his love and I look on this as an opportunity to grow spiritually and come closer to my Heavenly Father and my Savior Jesus Christ. I appreciate all the prayers of and family and friends and I thank all who have put my name on temple prayer rolls. I surely couldn’t do this without the support and love of family, friends, and, especially, from my greatest supporter and cheerleader, my husband David.

I love the poem by Robert Frost, “The Road Not Taken.” The two last lines are especially meaningful to me as I head down a path that I wouldn’t necessarily have wanted to take: "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference."

I end as I began, “You never know when life will take you down a path that you didn’t plan on.” I now find myself on the path “less traveled by,” not by my choice, for I probably would have taken the path that was easier and more well-traveled. I trust, however, with this opportunity to stretch and grow, I will be able to say, in time, “that has made all the difference.”

Time Off for a Little Culture

Our lives have become pretty much consumed by our jobs with the National Assessment of Education (NAEP) for the last several months. David is the head of a 6 person team and I am his unofficial assistant. He attended training in Los Angeles in December (I enjoyed a mini-vacation while David was in class and then we visited Amy and her family for a couple of days.) and then in January, we started pre-assessment visits to each of the 17 schools where we will be testing students. We had to figure out all the details for the testing, gather information from principals and teachers, and try to figure out accomodations for students with special needs. We started testing two weeks ago. Our garage is full of boxes of booklets for testing (3 schools were done by the time I took a picture)

and our living spaces have become work spaces.

In addition, this week we were "on loan" to another testing group on a day that we weren't testing. That meant finishing up at a school in Salt Lake, driving out to Vernal, Utah, to test the next day in a school in Roosevelt, and then driving back to test the next day in Salt Lake. We stayed at a great hotel, with a great pool, jacuzzi, and breakfast, so it wasn't too much of an "ordeal" (except for the -16 degrees + windchill factor). We will be going back for a "Valentine's Day getaway," so we can help with testing the next day in Vernal. In the meantime, I work at the Bountiful clinic tomorrow before heading back to schools again for the rest of the week.

In the midst of all this testing, we had a day off and David suggested that we take a day for a date. We went down to the BYU Museum of Art to see a special exhibition, "Carl Bloch : The Master's Hand." (See at http://carlboch.byu.edu/.) Bloch was Danish religious art painter whose works have been adopted by the LDS Church for many publications, covers of manuals, and art found in chapels, temples, and Visitor Centers. The exhibit featured 4 altar pieces, removed from churches in Denmark and Sweden, plus one altar piece that the BYU Museum of Art owns- "Christ Healing the Sick at Bethesada." The exhibit also included other masterpieces- my favorite being "The daughter of Jarius." The exhibit was magnificent!! Several times, I had tears in my eyes because I was so moved by the works. The painting of Christ being supported by an angel in Gethsemane was especially touching.Having an ipad with additional information and videos was wonderful, as well. After visiting the special exhibit, we had a fabulous lunch at the museum's cafe (famous for its inexpensive, yet gourmet, fare) and saw the other exhibits at the museum. Next, we headed down to the Springville Museum of Art and saw a special exhibit of photographer Don Busath's work and then checked out the rest of the museum. We think it is quite the jewel of a museum! Then we visited Grandma and Grandpa Tanner for a couple of hours before heading back to Salt Lake to the Conference Center Little Theater for an evening of dance by the BYU Ballroom Dancers. It was a marathon day of a date and a wonderful cultural experience!

This weekend, we took another cultural break and attended "Les Miserables" at Woods Cross High School.

It truly was spectacular. The sets and costumes were awesome, the choruses of idealistic students at the barricade, "Lovely Ladies," in fact, all the choruses were strong and powerful, and the leads were amazing. Eponine (played by Laura Alley, of our ward) and Cosette were especially amazing and Marius and Jean Valjean were great, as well. Janet Cook and company (including Kate and Sandra doing costumes) pulled off another miraculous musical and everyone is talking about it and flocking to it. Glad we went the second "premier" night and had wonderful seats.

We loved all the cultural moments and they certainly brought a needed break, lifted our spirits, and gave us perspective as only art and music can do.

Our "New Home"

It's about time I posted pictures of our new bathroom and bedroom. There still are some painting, installing, and unpacking projects to finish and I need to make curtains, nevertheless, we are loving our new rooms. First, the closet. I love having "a place for everything and everything in its place." It is great to go in and know exactly where to find something instead of having to rummage through so much "stuff" crammed into a small space. Next up is our bedroom. The extra space is so wonderful! The new room feels spacious compared to our old room. We even have room for a comfy chair. We love the sunny yellow walls which are especially cheery since we've had a lot of dreary weather outside. Our bed has a new look with the set that we received for Christmas from two of our daughters.We love having a fireplace! It is so great- we can lie in bed and with the touch of a button, we turn it on first thing in the morning and voila! the room is toasty in a matter of minutes! And, we have entered the world of HD TV! We never knew what we were missing- especially watching gorgeous wildlife shows and sports are pretty awesome. We still have to get the blu-ray player hooked up so we can watch movies in HD.Here's a sneak peek at the bathroom . . .There are so many things to love about our new bathroom! David often says things like "I really like this bathroom!" which is great to hear after the frustrations that came with the remodel. But, what's not to like? It is such a luxury to have a nice big bathroom! Our old bathroom was really more of a hallway into the closet with an adjoining small toilet/shower area (The old shower was 3' x 3'- I don't hit my elbow on the walls or doorway anymore!). It is so much fun to have such a great space! Included is a small toilet area that can be closed off with a pocket door and there's a linen closet next to the vanity with space at the bottom for light and dark clothes "hampers"and floor to ceiling shelves.Here's the vanity area . . .Here's the new shower that feels like we're visiting a spa . . .And, last but not least, our new bathtub area. It is an air-jetted tub rather than a jacuzzi and the bubbles are wonderfully soothing. It is a great place to relax with a good book!So there you have it. We love spending time in our new home and hope that we can show it to you in person some time soon. Visit us anytime and we'll give you the "official" tour!

An Update

We are taking a break from the remodel, spending several days in Los Angeles. David is attending training in preparation for heading up a team for testing in the schools again in January and February. I'm hanging out and getting some projects done during the day- one of which is posting a few pictures of progress on our new bedroom and bath. We really are getting close to moving back in and enjoying our new rooms.

The closet is done and it will be great to have everything in one place, instead of scattered in closets all over the house. Love the new shelves! The narrow ones are for shoes.

The bedroom has a new light, as well as the bathroom. The bathroom is almost done. The vanities are installed and the granite is in place. The water is on, the lights are working, and the tiling is done. We are just waiting for a mirror and shower door and glass to close off the shower. They will arrive next week when we return.

The last project was painting the hall and entry before the carpet arrived. It looks wonderful- so clean and bright! And, we love the carpet- we walk into rooms and feel like they are brand new!
What a lift and such a gift! We are in the process of cleaning and moving back in. We will have to work fast when we return home, for Tom and Amy and their family are arriving a couple of days after we return. How exciting it will be to have them see the fruits of two month's worth of hard work.

This December, our home is feeling pretty happy as we celebrate living here for 32 years! Happy anniversary and thanks for all the memories!

Family Christmas Party Highlights

Yesterday, our extended family gathered for the annual family Christmas party. We rejoice as a family each year that we are able to celebrate another Christmas with Grandma and Grandpa. This year, they are both 94 years old . . .-but not too old to sit on Santa's knee! In fact, Grandma joined Grandpa and then the great-grandchildren gathered around. What a great memory-maker and it certainly was a "photo op!"We missed a number of family this year. Some were out of town for the Thanksgiving weekend, the big BYU-Utah game claimed another who scored a ticket to the game, David's sister and brother-in-law are serving a mission in Tokyo, Japan (a bit of a commute), and a few others were missing here and there, but it still was a fun time and a chance to visit and do some "catching up." With all of our family living out of state, we just find a family to "adopt" us and this year we had the pleasure of visiting with Mark and Kellie and their family, from Green River, Wyoming. I also had the great joy of holding the newest member of the family, Paige and Dan's adorable son. This picture is especially for Barbara and Rulon . . .David got a chance to talk to Santa.

Then Santa asked the two of us what we wanted for Christmas. That was a "no-brainer!" We told him we wanted to be done with our new bedroom and bathroom and the house back in order and clean!It was a fun party and we appreciate the work that Michael and Marilyn did to prepare for such a large gathering. Just getting to see David's mom and dad with their family was a joyful occasion. That's a big part of what Christmas is about!Have a wonderful Christmas season!